Impermanence
Date Posted: February 1, 2022
Posted In: Discussion, Ideas, Workforce,
by John Gaal
Born in 1992, John Stefan Gaal, Jr. was the second of our four children. He was someone who was handsome, smart, fast, and strong…but, most importantly, he cared about others. John loved and played a variety of sports since he was 4 years old. For several years, I had the pleasure of coaching his grade school outdoor and indoor soccer teams. Both won a number of championships. John Jr played baseball up through 8th grade and was feared at the plate for his home run hitting abilities. Although he never played organized football until he reached his freshman year of high school, he REALLY loved that sport…so much so in grade school his email address was jsgtouchdown@aol.com. In fact, when the St. Louis Rams won the Super Bowl in 2000, Little John wore a ball cap that proudly noted this accomplishment for years to come.

About this same time, a dear friend of mine from high school was completing his fourth of four tours of military duty…the last 2 being in Afghanistan. The final tour exposed him to multiple IED blasts. However, it was a nearby grenade explosion that caused his most severe traumatic brain injury (TBI) also known as an invisible injury of war. His related symptoms have worsened over time and, as a result, have more recently developed into Parkinson’s.

In closing, my dreams for John Jr’s future were not to be as next month marks the five-year anniversary of his death by suicide due to TBIs. Posthumously, Little John’s brain was diagnosed with Stage 1 CTE in December of 2017 by researchers at Boston University and the Concussion Legacy Foundation. In spite of this tragedy, I often think about our times together:
- scoring his only soccer goal in high school…the one that put his team in the state’s Final Four;
- visiting him while he was away at college just 10 years ago;
- hiking with him through the lava caves in Kona, HI on his 21st birthday; and
- holding him in my arms in his final moments on earth.
From one construction professional to another, I respectfully ask for YOUR assistance in breaking the silence concerning mental health in the construction industry. By doing so, TOGETHER we can STOP the stigma of mental illness. And, who knows…maybe help some parents avoid the pain and sorrow of losing a child to this disease. My family paid a heavy price! I urge you to learn from our life’s lesson that not only is life precious it can also be unfairly impermanent.
For more information, please go to www.2114CAF.org.
Notes:
1 http://www.manofthehourmag.com/culture/the-maturity-of-young-men
2 https://training-conditioning.com/article/examining-subconcussive-hits-in-sports/
5 https://constructionexec.com/article/the-dangers-of-invisible-injuries
Acknowledgement:
This article would not have come to fruition without the ongoing support from my dear friend and colleague, Cal Beyer. Over the past couple of years, we have collaborated on a number of projects focusing on mental health, opioids awareness, and suicide prevention in the construction industry…here and abroad. My family deeply appreciates his continuing efforts to establish and maintain John Jr’s legacy!
About the Author:
John Gaal
Dr. Gaal recently accepted the newly created position of director for the Mo AFL-CIO’s Missouri Works Initiative’s Worker Wellness Program. (At the end of January 2019, after 40 years of service, John retired as the Director of Training and Workforce Development for the St. Louis-Kansas City Carpenters Regional Council.)
